weddings.

It has been a very long time since I've written a blog.
I suppose its for a number of reasons. Not because I haven't had anything to say, more, I haven't found time to write it.
but I suppose today, I as I sit at work, listening to yet another wedding speech, I feel the need to blog.
weddings: is it just me or do they place such an unnecessary pressure on perfection? The day is the bride and grooms special day which should, in theory, only occur once in their life, and thus needs to be "spectacular". For instance, this current wedding I am at, there is a photobooth, stretch hummer, inside fireworks, dj, professional photographer and all you can eat buffet. It's insane. "perfect"

This is not my only issue with weddings. There is something about weddings that just leaves me questioning... how is it that every marriage is "pure happiness" and yet 1 in 2 end in divorce? If you have been to as many weddings as I have, you begin to notice common themes. how every couple were "destined" for each other. Love at first sight. everybody always knew they would get married.
Really?
Maybe I'm a cynic, but I find this so hard to believe.
to me, this pedastool for marriage is a recipe for disaster. many may not share my feelings on this, but personally I'm of the belief that the "right" person is about opportunity and time, not true love. If you find a compatible, good looking person when you are of the appropriate "breeding" age, that person becomes "the one".
Moreover, no relationship is perfect, they have their ups and downs and there is no way marriage is easy. It is a life commitment based on love and trust, not "perfect person" instead, the person who makes life that little bit more bearable. Who's annoying habits you know, recognize and don't give a shit about, who you can fight with, hurt more than anybody else, and yet still come back. Honestly there is not a recipe. But weddings don't mean shit. Promising to love somebody is more than a false hope for "perfection" it doesn't exist in this world. and hoping for it, pretending like it exists, doesn't mean it will... In fact its setting you self up for disappointment.
Personally I see relationships like a hug- something of which I am quite fond- when you spoon, and are both facing the same direction, the hug is amazing, you fit one inside the other, and limbs are comfortably place. However when you face each other, sometimes it can work, but usually somebody is awkwardly positioned to comfort the other.
In a relationship, if you are both going the same direction, it works, comfortable and correct. But when you are each going your own way, you can hold out, and enjoy momentarily or short term, but eventually somebody will have to retire when their arm falls asleep.

wow... It is late and I am exhausted, I wrote this on my phone at work. Now to see if I can upload it... Fingers crossed.

weddings.

It has been a very long time since I've written a blog.
I suppose its for a number of reasons. Not because I haven't had anything to say, more, I haven't found time to write it.
but I suppose today, I as I sit at work, listening to yet another wedding speech, I feel the need to blog.
weddings: is it just me or do they place such an unnecessary pressure on perfection? The day is the bride and grooms special day which should, in theory, only occur once in their life, and thus needs to be "spectacular". For instance, this current wedding I am at, there is a photobooth, stretch hummer, inside fireworks, dj, professional photographer and all you can eat buffet. It's insane. "perfect"

This is not my only issue with weddings. There is something about weddings that just leaves me questioning... how is it that every marriage is "pure happiness" and yet 1 in 2 end in divorce? If you have been to as many weddings as I have, you begin to notice common themes. how every couple were "destined" for each other. Love at first sight. everybody always knew they would get married.
Really?
Maybe I'm a cynic, but I find this so hard to believe.
to me, this pedastool for marriage is a recipe for disaster. many may not share my feelings on this, but personally I'm of the belief that the "right" person is about opportunity and time, not true love. If you find a compatible, good looking person when you are of the appropriate "breeding" age, that person becomes "the one".
Moreover, no relationship is perfect, they have their ups and downs and there is no way marriage is easy. It is a life commitment based on love and trust, not "perfect person" instead, the person who makes life that little bit more bearable. Who's annoying habits you know, recognize and don't give a shit about, who you can fight with, hurt more than anybody else, and yet still come back. Honestly there is not a recipe. But weddings don't mean shit. Promising to love somebody is more than a false hope for "perfection" it doesn't exist in this world. and hoping for it, pretending like it exists, doesn't mean it will... In fact its setting you self up for disappointment.
Personally I see relationships like a hug- something of which I am quite fond- when you spoon, and are both facing the same direction, the hug is amazing, you fit one inside the other, and limbs are comfortably place. However when you face each other, sometimes it can work, but usually somebody is awkwardly positioned to comfort the other.
In a relationship, if you are both going the same direction, it works, comfortable and correct. But when you are each going your own way, you can hold out, and enjoy momentarily or short term, but eventually somebody will have to retire when their arm falls asleep.

wow... It is late and I am exhausted, I wrote this on my phone at work. Now to see if I can upload it... Fingers crossed.